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Hierarchies are:-
Soul destroying
De-skilling
Resentment fuelling
Inherently corrupt
Inherently unfair
Humiliating
Energy sucking
Self esteem battering
Full of lies
Time wasting
Inefficient
Slow to change
Disrespectful
Dependent
Imprisoning
Suspicious
Fearful
Aggressive
Herdlike
Uncreative
The worst thing I've noticed is - we all live subject to these maligned hierarchical structures.
The second worst thing thing I've noticed is - most people feel like that. How many people do you know who moan about their bosses, their underlings, the top "dawgs", the "plebs", the rich, the poor, the government....
I know my feelings on this have a huge influence on how I parent. I don't think I need to impose my authority on my daughter, or think in any way that I know better than her. Sure I have more experience which I am keen to share with her. But am I the boss of her?
No way.
What do I like?
Self-governance
Self-determination
Consensus
Skill sharing
Mentoring
Networking
Trust
Diversity
Having a voice
Speaking up
Sharing the load
Sharing the gain
Respect
Creativity
Self-esteem
The fulfillment of potential
Meeting needs
Compassion
Community
Interdependency
Peace
Goddamnitfreedom!
I'm sounding like an anarchist or something...
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3 comments:
I am so with you on this. I took A and E to the pediatrician week before last and before launching in to the standard, "age-appropriate" parenting advice American pediatricians typically give, he said of Annabelle, "It looks like you have her pretty well controlled," in an almost congratulatory manner. I wonder how wide my eyes got at this statement. I was unable to respond because it struck me as so absurd. I love the last item on your list most - that's what I'm going for, not control.
"Controlled"! Eye-rolling. I've lost count of how many people say B is so "good" - this is always always always when she is silent and compliant. This is the message society gives her :-(
great lists!
something to live by for me, as well.
XO
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